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Baby shower etiquette and MIL (Read 4340 times)
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Baby shower etiquette and MIL
Feb 06th, 2016, 9:18am
 
Im looking forward to having a baby shower early next month at a restaurant. Date and place already booked. Invitations custom made. Invitations havent been sent yet bc of worry about a possible issue with MIL. The shower is being thrown by DH, with help from DH's 2 or 3 friends, and myself. Noone else stepped up to throw one but it is what it is, and I want a shower really bad, more for celebration aspect than gifts really. MIL made one comment in Dec about a baby shower for me but never mentioned it ever again to me, or asked me for a list of invites. Seemed like a dead end...Ive had it happen before, not with MIL but with other people. DH texted his mom to come to a shower for me. She responded: "You cant throw the shower for her, your the husband, its not right." Im guessing shes following old fashioned shower etiquette that you cant throw yourself or your spouse your own shower, or maybe its supposed to be surprise. She then said "Im going to have one at my house for her." I feel thats really sweet. But honestly its not logical because she lives very far away in the middle of the country, which would be very very hard for guests to get to, esp those without cars. Also I dont know how MIL is going to get people I actually know to a shower if she hasnt asked me or anyone for names let alone addresses. (she + my family have never met so she knows no names, address, etc) DH told her to call me but I havent heard from her at all even when I texted "how are you doing". I want to hold hope that MIL has something nice planned for me but somethings not adding up. I wonder if MIL just said she wanted to throw the shower for me at her house because she wants to have involvement because she thinks its "proper" for the mom to be running the shower (but my own mom is deceased) instead of the DH. What do u think? Should I not send out my invites yet, wait around to see if MIL eventually throws me one--even tho she doesnt have names of people to invite? Or should I continue thru with the plans we already have, send out invites, including to her? I am a people pleaser (which is why we selected a shower place thats at a centralized location, close to highways and mass transit) and I dont want to offend MIL. But I dont want to end up without a shower either, Im already 31 weeks and my originally planned shower date at the restaurant is less than a full month away. Worried that if I wait and do nothing, nothing will pan out and then itll be too late to have the shower wed already planned for. Stressed!
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Re: Baby shower etiquette and MIL
Reply #1 - Dec 22nd, 2016, 12:10pm
 
How did your baby shower go?
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