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Dress Code
Mar 30th, 2013, 4:18pm
 
I have searched through the forum, but haven't quite found the answer to this yet.  We are having a Sunday lunch event.  My son wants the boys to wear a suit and tie, then take the jacket off.   I would prefer the girls to wear a casual dress rather than their party dresses. I am having trouble coming up with a phrase for the dress code.  It seems odd to write cocktail attire for an afternoon event.  My son doesn't think the boys will dress up if it says dressy casual.  I loved the dress:up idea, but he didn't like it at all.  He wants to use "sophisticated", but sophisticated what?  formal -- to formal.  Attire?  might work but would anyone know what that meant.  I could say sandals and sundresses for the girls, but what could I say for the boys?
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Re: Dress Code
Reply #1 - Mar 30th, 2013, 5:52pm
 
usually dress is for the guys and the girls take it from there (business, cocktail, black tie etc). i personally don't like "cocktail" directed at 13 year olds. what do you think of simply "jacket and tie" ?
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Reply #2 - Mar 30th, 2013, 6:57pm
 
I could live with jacket and tie, but the girls will probably dress up more than I prefer since I will probably wear a more casual floral dress myself.  What do you think of something like "synagogue attire".  (maybe there is a better way to phrase this) The lunch is at the synagogue even though it is Sunday.  The boys would still wear jacket and tie, but the girls might wear a regular dress rather than their strapless party dresses.
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Reply #3 - Mar 30th, 2013, 9:04pm
 
if your friends understand that "synagogue attire" means jackets and ties--then i say go for it. my concern around here would be that the boys would be in khakis or nice pants and oxford shirts--but no jackets and ties--especially in the summer. would "party attire" be too dressy?
one other idea may be "jackets and ties, sundresses and sandals" very descriptive; but awfully long!  
i know that we almost made ourselves crazy over what dress to put on our invitations and figuring out others'--but for the most part the kids wore what their parents wanted--blazers and slacks on the boys, dresses on the girls. those who want more info will call.
btw--my dh just walked by and he likes "sophisticated dress". i like it, too--but shre your concern the girls may get dressed up.
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Reply #4 - Mar 31st, 2013, 7:16am
 
I think you may have a hard time with this because what you want for the two genders are not quite consistent.  If I saw" sundress and sandals" for girls I would not put my son in a jacket and tie. I would give him khakis and a button down.  If I saw a dress code of"jacket and tie" my daughter would be in a party dress. Considering that every boy will have that jacket and tie off by the time they have found their seats,  can you settle for khakis? I have seen " casual chic" on an invitation.
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Reply #5 - Mar 31st, 2013, 9:20am
 

Your son wants the boys to dress up. You want the girls to dress down. Are you concerned that if the girls dress up your dress will look too casual?

You can only suggest a dress code and spread the word. But you can't enforce it.

And Mom, your dress sounds perfect. Wear it !!!!
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Reply #6 - Apr 15th, 2013, 3:24pm
 
i would not think to put a dress code on the invite.  We are also having a luncheon at the temple right after the service.


I figure adults/kids will know how to dress...
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Reply #7 - Apr 15th, 2013, 6:45pm
 
Maybe in Ny they know.......Smiley  At my son's party, it was party dresses on many of the girls and pants and shirts for the boys.  I even had a few boys in jeans (but the mothers asked me first).  I didn't mind.

My son just went to an afternoon party at a very upscale hotel and it was the same look. My son's uniform is dress slacks and button down shirt and the girls wore party type dresses. I don't think my daughter ever went to a B'nai Mitzvah party in anything else when she was in middle school.

I think the safest is "Temple/Church attire". Most people should be able to figure that out.
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Reply #8 - Apr 18th, 2013, 9:58pm
 
Our party is the day after the service.  That was why I included the dress code.  I ended up going with jacket and tie.  We are using email rsvp and I plan on emailing the girls attending to let them know that they can wear a casual dress if they want rather than their party dresses.  The invites went out on Tuesday so I can't wait to see what the response is like
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Re: Dress Code
Reply #9 - Apr 18th, 2013, 11:14pm
 
sounds like a good decision. good luck with the replies. Smiley
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