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Who should be invited?
Jul 17th, 2012, 4:06pm
 
I am 6 months pregnant and my sister in law is planning on throwing me a baby shower. She asked me to get a list of people together to invite. I sent it to her and she exclaimed how she is so happy to throw this for her new niece. She then asked me if she could invite people that she knew. You have to know me to understand my comment,,,I'm very shy and have a very small group of girl friends. I told her that I would feel odd having people there that either I didn't know or never, ever talked to. I would feel like it was "I don't know you or talk to you, but give me a gift." I have now hurt her feelings. Was I wrong in doing this? I don't feel I was rude, but I do feel that this shower is for me and I also don't want to come across rude. Others have agreed with me and told me to ignore. But I now feel about an inch tall like I have done something wrong. Opinions?
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Re: Who should be invited?
Reply #1 - Jul 18th, 2012, 10:34am
 
you have done nothing wrong....
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Reply #2 - Aug 15th, 2012, 11:23am
 
No you haven't done anything wrong! She might have just felt awkward for putting you on the spot. Have you tried to talk to her about it since? I wouldn't worry, it sounds like you handled it well.
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Reply #3 - Dec 20th, 2013, 4:13am
 
you have done nothing wrong....
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Re: Who should be invited?
Reply #4 - Mar 4th, 2014, 12:45am
 
You have not done anything wrong at all.
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Re: Who should be invited?
Reply #5 - May 6th, 2014, 10:34am
 
You are right it is about you and your baby - just remember though if she is a social butterfly and you are more on the shy side she might just have the mindset that bigger is better and she is just wanting to help you out with a rent a crowd which of cause isn't what you need or want.  Its just a case of both understanding that you have specific intentions but are different people.  Is this a first time Aunt affair too?  If it is, then she might also just be over excited.  I'm not saying let her invite the extras but maybe just sit with her over a coffee and explain that you are appreciative but that you wanted it to be more personal???
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Re: Who should be invited?
Reply #6 - Jul 1st, 2014, 1:22am
 
Good grief! Did she forget that she was throwing YOU a shower, or what? See, that's the thing; people getting their priorities straight. If she wanted to have a party, she should have planned it and had it; gotten the "party bug" out of her system, and NOT caused you any distress.

Sorry darlin', that may be your sister-in-law, but SHE"S CLEARLY OUT OF LINE. When you host a party or special event for someone, and they're your Guest of Honor, you do everything in your power to make sure it's ALL ABOUT THEM (not you, the host).

SHE'S RUDE, not you. You're fine.
She needs to read this thread, get some manners, and get over herself.

The nerve!
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